Be Satisfied With All Seasons

For the girls struggling with the season of being single please read.

I was sitting at one of my favorite spots for brunch around some of the people I cherish the most. I noticed the conversation was steering in a direction that I did not relate to. As I took a moment to sit back and listen, it made me realize one thing, I am the only single one out of my close friend group. I have had times like this before, seeing my best friends get married to the person they are supposed to be with. They were pursued properly and have such a wonderful, God-centered relationship. This has driven me into so much doubt over the last couple months, with the question constantly in my head: “Why hasn’t my time come”? This has created a lot of insecurity along with me settling into any relationship just to fill the void of all the hardships going on in my life. I have endured quite a bit of heartache and disappointment from failed relationships that were never destined to succeed in the first place. I have had this idea in my head that having a guy in my life would secure the fantasy of me with the white dress walking down the isle. I think I was more heartbroken over the idea that I had to start from ground zero again looking for that “special” one person to be there always when times got tough rather than actually losing that person.

I talked about my insecurities with one of my friends, who is newly married. She had her person to go back to at night that would always be there to listen and keep her company. She told me something that got me thinking a lot about the way I used to approach relationships. “Be satisfied with the season you are in. God put you here for a reason and is using you for something great”.

My best friends bridal shower.

I was so wrapped up in the idea of not having someone to call my own that it blinded me from God’s plan. As a hopeless romantic, I can’t help but want to give my all in any relationship I am in. This has been a blessing and a curse in my life and I am now learning that I should be careful jumping into any relationship. I will say this once: NEVER. SETTLE! You might feel like you're having some quarter-life crisis because you have not secured a soul mate for the rest of your life. The reality is you’re in your 20’s and haven’t found a husband yet. Well... A huge chunk of that population hasn't either. Take a look at the key word "YET". You still have your whole life ahead of you and you want to be able to learn more about yourself before God puts someone there to share life with. Some people were able to do so at a younger age and that is just in their life plan. YOUR PLAN IS NOT THEIRS.

I have experienced the most growth during this season and it has given me the opportunity to grow closer to the Lord. I used times where I felt alone as an opportunity to dig more into the Word and pray about what ever was on my mind. Yes, I might be surrounded by people that are married, engaged, and in love, but that does not take away from the love God has for me. My time will come, I don’t know when, but I no longer have to settle for anyone just for that attention. I can’t tell anyone when they will meet the guy they have been praying for. Only God knows. Be patient and be secure with yourself for it will cause you to see the great things God has called you to do, which will only set you up for an even greater relationship.

Ps: YOU ARE ENOUGH <3